Motherhood is constant. It doesn’t stop when you need a break. And while we are not always in control we do have influence. Do we react with denial/inattention during those times we badly need a break? I know I do.
Sometimes it works, and inattention at the moment was the best, but most times it is not ideal.
Do I really need a break, or do I just need to stop my negative thoughts and just do what I know I should be doing? Do I do my best to take care of myself by getting enough sleep, eating healthy, cutting back on the unnecessary, and getting support, so I can react well? I know, it’s easier said than done, but we can give it our best.
I am realizing just how big a responsibility motherhood is. But I am realizing it comes with joys just as big, if we’re paying attention.
What has helped you the most in managing the constant demands of motherhood?
I admit it. It hasn’t been easy to keep my faith first. It’s lately stayed in the background.
Saving money to be a good steward was easy. Simplifying my wardrobe and home decor to be a good steward was fairly easy. Home decor was planned to create an environment that would make it easier to draw closer to God.
But then it became harder. I spent too much time on a putting together a pleasing wardrobe. And then there is the joy I get from my wardrobe.
I guess it’s just one of the many things I need to work on. So while I do find joy on things like that, I will make a point to find joy in God instead. Concerning my wardrobe, I will aim only to be neat and presentable (which I was not ready for until now).
As I work towards my goals, I need to remember they should not be my goals first. I should seek his goals first.
That doesn’t mean I don’t research and plan and work hard. It means I pray about it, listen and read the Bible first, then do what I can. And what I can’t do reasonably, I leave to God.
What areas do you struggle with when you reconcile your faith to your goals?
Yesterday I made time to slow down and enjoy…
A simple favorite meal…
A slow song in my head….
The excitement of and a discussion with my youngest child….
I plan on making time, enjoying, savoring and being grateful for three simple joys of mine everyday, to live out a “well-lived” life.
Simple joys are different for everyone, so it’s necessary to figure what brings the most joy to ourselves. They can even be something like wearing a favorite bracelet or greatly admiring something you saw. They are the good simple things, when everything in front of us is bad.
What simple things mean/matter the most to you? What simple things do you greatly and deeply enjoy?
It varies for everyone and it may also vary throughout one’s life.
In the past it has meant enjoying family and friends, traveling, having a good job, purchasing a house, serving others,and numerous other things.
But lately my goals have been for security and that requires sacrifice. For me, gratitude seems the answer to fill that gap. Gratitude can give me a life well-lived. Gratitude allows me joy in my family, in the kindness of friends, in a tasty meal, in a piece of art or music. They differ for everyone, but they are the little things we easily overlook every day. If we don’t overlook them, take time to enjoy them,anđ are grateful for them, then I think my life will have been well-lived.
What about you? How are you living life well, while aiming for your goals?
Didn’t buy ankle boots and tees and tops except for a $5 tee at Sam’s. Instead I mended sweaters and made do with the shoes I already had. I will need shoes and tees eventually, but will wait for lower prices.
Didn’t buy new phonics and math homeschool workbooks even though though we finished the ones we had. Instead I borrowed Ordinary Parents Guide to reading from the library and used the Singapore Math 2b books I found that my older son barely used. We were using Math in Focus 1b, but he seems to be doing fine. I will have to see what additional topics we need to cover.
Minimized grocery shopping to rice milk, eggs, etc. Instead we are using up what we already have, even if it means more work or less of our favorite quick foods.
Have been drinking tea we already have instead of coffee, and staying away from sugar, mostly to try to increase my energy.
Reading other blogs and simplifying things has helped greatly in being able to do these things. Simplifying and mending/taking care of my clothes, books, and food and reading blogs that made do with what they already had, decreased our clothing, books and food purchases.
Reading blogs featuring debt/mortgage payoffs has motivated me more to find ways to do without while still feeling content. I think that after simplifying a little, my mind was more clear and I was able to attempt to stay healthy physically and mentally. I think that better health will help with being creative with resources and being content.
How about you? What has helped you save?
Happy New Year! This new year I am striving towards kindness. I am learning that it is much easier said than done.
Lately it has been harder for me to be kind. Before, injustices were easily overlooked, because of kindness. I don’t know the cause for the change, and it really doesn’t matter. What is important is that I face this head on. My faith requires it.
And so I focus on kindness and suffering while I remind myself that I am receiving God’s blessing and in the end the least shall be first and the first shall be last.
How about you? What are you working on this new year?