We’ve been participating in recreational basketball for three seasons now. It hasn’t come easy to the kids, but they don’t want to stop. They are ok with just participating. I am not.
Maybe for some things I would be fine with just participating. Maybe if the other kids weren’t progressing so well, it would be ok. But the other kids have gotten better and I feel there is no reason that my kids can’t also.
I know it sounds bad. I know I shouldn’t use the other kids as a benchmark. What matters is if my kids are doing their best. And they are not. (If they were, I might try to persuade them to do something they would be better at. That sounds terrible, but that’s also another topic to deal with separately.)
So we have been going to the gym to practice more. We also signed up for an 8 lesson basketball class at the gym. And they are finally showing some improvement.
No, I didn’t enjoy having to go to the gym even more frequently. And it was pretty discouraging this past year. I worried that they wouldn’t get better despite even more practice. But we kept going and finally there were signs of hope.
What made me not give up? Well, it took the youngest a long time to get the hang of swimming. He’s still not great, but he’s much better then before. And then there’s reading which the youngest really struggled with for a long time, but he is much better at it now. And then of course there’s my personality, I don’t mind working at most things even if it takes a while. When it got so discouraging, I set goals for them, along with a plan.
But what if they didn’t get better, or if they don’t continue to do better? Well, they were definitely better than when they first started. Either way, we learned valuable lessons on values, persistence, goals and time management.
How much time do you give to learn a new skill? How many times do you keep going despite lack of progress? What helps you to persist despite lack of progress?